Do you suddenly turn shy when you’re at a party, school, new job, anywhere that might be a little out of your comfort zone?
This morning I was listening to a podcast.
Can you guess who?
Yep!! You guessed it! Marie Forleo.
It’s Podcast 111 – 3 Surefire Strategies To Get Out There and Meet More People
Her strategies really resonated with me.
Not just for meeting people though.
I began thinking about how useful they could be for achieving goals.
Yes, they are great to use to help meet new people and improve communication.
These strategies can certainly help you communicate better one on one or with team members in a group.
They are a very powerful yet easy way to get completely out of your comfort zone and can help you approach someone who seems unapproachable.
But I was also inspired in another way.
So many things we have to do, not just interacting with others, require us to step out of our comfort zones.
If you have a situation you’re struggling with, goals you want to achieve, these strategies may be just the answer you’re looking for.
Strategy #1 – Set a stretch goal.
I’m not talking about how limber you are here! Hahaha!
But I AM talking about how limber your goals are.
‘Stretch goal’ is a commonly used phrase but have you really ever stopped to think about what a real stretch goal is? Or how to set stretch goal?
When I think of setting a stretch goal, I automatically think that it has to be a big complicated goal that I’ll have to work super hard at to accomplish.
This can seem overwhelming, like it’s impossible or make you feel like “I’ll never be able to do it!”
Marie helped me see stretch goals in a more manageable way.
For example: If you’re comfortable meeting one new person a day, set a goal to meet 2, after you’ve done that, set a goal to meet 4, and so on.
Here we go talking about baby steps again!
Why? Because they work!
Toastmasters is a great example of how baby steps can help take you out of your comfort zone and to that next Level.
You might start off telling a joke at a meeting, or sharing a quote or inspirational moment. You then might facilitate the meeting, and eventually give a speech.
I’ve seen how effective this can be so I know it works.
That’s how I became an Area Director mentoring four different Toastmasters clubs.
Baby step by baby step.
I never would have started out saying, “I think I’ll volunteer to be an Area Director!” Nope. No way!
Confidence grows little by little but you have to be doing something to help it grow.
You can’t just sit around thinking about it.
Stretch goals help you establish new habits.
If you set a goal to do yoga 10 minutes every day, that’s completely doable.
From there you may start doing 15 or 20 minutes a day.
Before you know it you’re doing yoga for 30 or 45 minutes.
And then suddenly, wow, you can do the splits!!!
Strategy #2- Be interested not interesting.
Marie made one great statement supporting this strategy that I think sums it up very well.
“People are interested in you when you are interested in them.”
Who has ever liked listening to someone go on and on about themself? Maybe they don’t even think to ask you how you’re doing.
Admit it we all know people like this!
It gets old fast, doesn’t it?!
I know for me my mind starts wandering and all of a sudden I have no idea what they just said for the past 5 minutes.
Does this ever happen to you?
In contrast, how do you feel when someone seems genuinely interested in you?
Have you ever walked away from a conversation feeling like someone was really listening and actually cared?
I hope we all know someone like this.
That person who asks how your daughter’s birthday party went over the weekend or if you were ever able to get to that yoga class you’ve been excited to try.
That person who makes you feel as if you’re the only person in the room at that moment.
Strategy #3 – Have a Party Line
Prepare a simple line that you can use to introduce yourself no matter where u are.
Marie says”Hey I’m Marie, I don’t think we’ve met before!”
We meet new people almost every day.
Using this strategy prepares you for those golden opportunities. Like when you run into the CEO in the cafeteria.
It’s also great for when you enter a meeting room where there are no familiar faces.
The more comfortable you get with meeting new people the greater the opportunities will be that open up to you.
Have you ever seen a successful networker who is too uncomfortable to get out there and meet people?
That would be kinda hard right?!
Sure it can be hard putting yourself out there but if you are prepared and practice, it will get easier. I guarantee it!
Marie’s podcast is just 7 minutes long. If you can grab a couple of minutes to listen to it I know you’ll be just as inspired as I was!
#1 Set a stretch goal
#2 Be interested not interesting
#3 Have a party line
What stretch goal do you want to work on?? I’d love to hear about it. Just leave a comment!