Hello! Happy Thursday my friends!
This week I’m thinking about having a positive mindset!
How do you remain positive when you’re surrounded by negativity?
Do you think that the way others are acting around you doesn’t affect you?
I have firsthand experience with this.
For example, by nature I tend to see things with rose-colored glasses.
I don’t even have to think about it, I just always see a bright side.
Drives my kids crazy!
As a matter of fact, Alexis once told me, “Mom, there isn’t a bright side to everything!”
“Actually there is,” I said.
But even as easy as it is for me, recently I have found myself sinking into the negativity trap once in a while.
This made me start thinking.
How did I go from being content to complaining about something that didn’t really bother me until others starting complaining about it?
How do you get sucked into the drama when you didn’t want to be there to begin with?
You get sucked in because it can be all around you and very hard to ignore.
Science tells us that having a positive attitude has a direct connection with happiness and success.
So we definitely benefit from keeping a positive outlook!
Here are the 3 things I do to help pull myself out of that negative mindset when I catch it creeping up on me:
#1 Always assume positive intent.
There are a few exceptions, but for the most part, people around you on a daily basis do have positive intent, even if it doesn’t come across that way. A lot of people just have a hard time communicating effectively. (Toastmasters people!)
But when you give people the benefit of the doubt, assume innocent until proven guilty, you’ll see how quickly things roll off your shoulders.
You’ll feel less stressed out in your interactions with others and you’ll find that the positive intent is returned in your direction.
#2 Don’t participate in negative talk.
Be it about yourself, someone else, your work, your life, someone else’s life, etc., just don’t do it. Ignore what Nike says for this one, you don’t want to “Just Do It”!
I know it can be difficult to be positive when people around you are complaining or when things in life aren’t going particularly well, but negativity is a slippery slope so it’s really important that you try to avoid negativity whenever possible.
The more you think or talk negatively, the easier it becomes to think and talk negatively.
Before you know it, you’re seeing things in a negative way that you used to perceive positively.
How do I know this?
Because it happens to me all the time.
Like I said, I generally see things from a positive perspective, however, I have realized that I can get caught up in what other’s around me are saying and then suddenly I realize I’m also thinking (or talking) negatively.
This is where I have to self-correct and make a conscientious effort to be positive.
Focusing on negatives isn’t just unpleasant, it can also make you less effective in general.
You will have a harder time tackling the tasks you have at hand. (according to mentalhealthamerica.net)
If you have a hard time getting yourself to be positive, you can start something similar to a judgment journal, just write down positive and negative thoughts when you get them and stop the negative thoughts in their tracks.
#3 Write about a positive future.
Researcher Laura King, PhD, proved that if you set aside just 20 minutes a day to write down a detailed account of how you envision a positive future it can be a great mood lifter.
You can write about:
- your achievements
- your ideal day
- your ideal relationship
- your ideal work environment
You get the idea!
As you write down these things, you will see your focus shift automatically to a more positive mindset.
MentalHealthAmerica.net lists 10 Tools for feeling stronger and more hopeful:
- Connect with others
- Stay positive
- Get physically active
- Help others
- Get enough sleep
- Create joy and satisfaction
- Eat well
- Take care of your spirit
- Deal better with hard times
- Get professional help if you need it
And don’t forget to smile!
A smile can do more for combating negativity than you can even imagine. Within yourself and others. It’s easy to do and has instant results.
Plus who wants to be around a grumpy Negative Nelly?! I know I don’t.
Even if you just give one of these 3 simple things a try, I guarantee you’ll see results. And when you do, let me know how it goes!
Is there anything you do that quickly snaps you out of the negativity trap?
If there is, we’d all love to hear about it in the comments below.