Ever find yourself seeing the negative side of people? Of situations? Be honest.
Maybe your significant other never makes the bed and you think, “What a slob!”
Or a co-worker repeatedly makes simple mistakes that seem so easy and every time you think, “So stupid! No common sense!”
Your best friend gets annoying and you think, “I don’t even know why we’re friends!”
Even worse, you make a mistake and tell yourself, “I never get anything right, I’m worthless.”
While thinking this way may seem harmless, it’s not.
In fact, it’s toxic to your mental wellbeing and physical health.
It’s also toxic to your relationships with others around you.
“What most people don’t realize is that the subconscious mind takes everything personally. So when you’re cursing a clueless driver or incompetent coworker, your subconscious registers only feelings of anger and disdain. It is unable to determine whether you’re upset with somebody else or yourself,” Dr. Friedemann Schaub, MD, PhD, physician Schaub said.
Unfortunately, we are all guilty of doing it at least once in a while, for some of us maybe a bit more often.
So what can we do to NOT do it?
I know you want to change.
I know you want to do better!
We all do.
And you’ll be happy to know there’s good news!
You can change your mindset by making one small change.
This week a friend introduced me to a life coach class she’s taking and she gave me a book they use. It’s called Energy Leadership.
I haven’t had a chance to read it yet, but while flipping through the pages I ran across a brilliant idea!
It’s called Judgment Journaling.
In Energy Leadership, it says you should start a two-column Judgment Journal if you’ve fallen into the trap of labeling people, experiences, behaviors -what have you- as either “good” or “bad.”
Here is what you do in the journal. It’s SUPER simple!!!
–Label left column Positive Judgments
–Label right column Negative Judgments
–Write positive thoughts you have during the day in the positive column
–Write negative thoughts you have during the day in the negative column
As you do this it says you should pay attention to all the different variants of good and bad such as hard-working, lazy, valuable, worthless, right, wrong, etc.
The idea is to track your thoughts because when you are aware of a behavior it is easier to change it.
My vision and number one goal for Happy is Pretty is to share with you ideas and tips that can make us all happier and healthier. Definitely self-care is high on my list of priorities.
When I was reading about the judgment journaling, I immediately knew I had to share the concept because it seems so easy yet so effective all at the same time.
Yesterday my good friend, Eva Clark, at www.beautylovesuccess.com committed to keeping a Judgment Journal at the same time I’m keeping mine.
Together we plan to do periodic check-ins on ourselves and with each other to evaluate our strengths and weaknesses and look for ways to improve.
Thoughts are very powerful.
When you have such a powerful tool (your brain!) at your disposal, why would you not want to make it the best resource possible?
Relationships and how you think about yourself are critically important.
I beg you, don’t leave your health and well-being to chance!
And I challenge you to incorporate this one small thing into your daily routine and see what results can come from it.
Happy Judgment Journaling my HiP friends!
If you have any thoughts or tips to share, please comment below.
I LOVE hearing from you!!