Happy Happy Happy Valentine’s Day!
Since we are celebrating relationships today let’s talk about why they are important.
There is an on-going 75 year study which has proven something amazing.
It has proven that “Good relationships keep us happier AND healthier.”
Good relationships are scientifically proven to be the key to true happiness and improved health!
It’s not taking vitamins, working out at the gym everyday, eating a vegan diet, doing mental mind games, and all that other good stuff we all know we should be doing but can’t seem to find the time for.
It’s having good relationships!
Notice it doesn’t say being in a relationship?
It specifically says good relationships are key.
So it’s not enough to be in just any old relationship or have some friends.
Your relationships need to be healthy and supportive, non-toxic.
Why are “good relationships” so important?
Good relationships are important because they can help you feel less physical pain, improve brain function, live longer, and be happier.
They help you feel safe and supported.
You know if you get sick, someone is there who will take care of you.
Someone you know, trust and love.
Psychiatrist Robert Waldinger is the director of this unprecedented study and the findings he shares in his TED talk are not as much astounding as they are reassuring.
I strongly encourage you to listen to Dr. Waldinger’s talk, it’s very insightful!
Here are the 3 main findings.
The study revealed:
Lesson 1 – Social connections are really good for us; loneliness kills. Loneliness is toxic.
Lesson 2- It’s not the number of friends that you have that’s important; it’s the quality of the relationships that’s important.
Lesson 3 – Good relationships don’t just protect our bodies, they protect our brains. We’re talking better memory here people and that’s invaluable!
So if “living in the midst of good warm relationships is protective”, then why do we tend to neglect important relationships when we get busy?
Too many people get focused on things in life that won’t bring lasting happiness.
Things such as obtaining wealth, career advancement, an advanced college degree, fame, you name it.
The distractions are limitless.
We all want to be happier and healthier so let’s not forget to nurture what’s most important.
On the Psychology Today website, I found a great list of easy ways to nurture relationships.
Check it out! It’s definitely worth a quick glance over.
It doesn’t take much to show appreciation and the rewards you reap are priceless.
For example, my kids and I love a good shaved ice.
If we find one we haven’t tried then we have to try it.
We just tried this one out on Saturday at Tako Korean BBQ!
This little tradition helps create a special bond between us.
It’s simple yet powerful.
(Ashley and I sneaking in a quick selfie after trying out the shaved ice at Tako’s.)
Farid and I love to go on mini-vacays together.
The kids usually end up tagging along but that’s ok. We don’t mind.
It still rejuvenates our relationship as we create new memories together.
Embrace Valentine’s Day and look for simple ways you can show your loved ones they are important!
What are some traditions that you have with your loved ones? I would love to hear them!
If you can’t think of any, create some! Remember, they don’t have to be complicated or expensive.
XO Crystal E