LET’S KICK-START THIS WEEK WITH A BIG SHOT OF CONFIDENCE!
Having confidence can be the difference between being happy and not being happy; being productive and not being productive; being attractive and not being attractive; being successful and not being successful.
Having confidence in yourself is NOT optional. It’s crucial!
What makes you feel confident?
For me confidence comes in many forms.
Here are 9 proven ways you can feel more confident today.
I’ve tried them myself and found them to be quite powerful.
- Power Pose. The research behind power posing is fascinating. In Amy Cuddy’s TED talk ‘Your Body Language Shapes Who You Are”, Amy describes how our physiology actually changes when we hold our bodies in a certain way. She says that by standing in a position of confidence even when we don’t feel confident we can immediately increase our confidence. Within minutes. James Clear says it can even reduce stress. That’s ALWAYS a bonus!
- Think About Past Accomplishments. If you are doubting yourself, take a minute to go over something you have accomplished in your past that you feel was a success. You may even want to make a list of past accomplishments that you can refer to when you need a little boost, or add to when you accomplish something new. Many times we forget and when we remember a past accomplishment it gives us a renewed hope. When you focus on the positives it can have great positive benefits, however, the opposite is also true. When you focus on the negatives it can have great negative benefits. So think about past successes, not failures. If you have time, read this Forbes article on how the past influences the present in unsuspecting ways.
- Set Short Term Goals. Setting short term goals that you can achieve quickly gives you a quick confidence boost because it gives you a feeling of satisfaction and success. For example, instead of saying you will write 60 pages of that novel you’re working on this month a better goal might be to say you will write 15 pages per week. Here’s a personal example that always inspires me when I’m working out. I found this 5 minute plank challenge on Pinterest and decided to give it a try. I started doing planks each day for 30 seconds. Then 60 seconds. Then 90 seconds. By progressing little by little I was eventually able to do a 5 minute plank. If I had started off with trying to do a 5 minute plank, chances are I wouldn’t have been able to do it and my confidence in myself being able to do a 5 minute plank would be pretty low. But dividing it up made it feel much more attainable. Baby steps get you to the big goal!
- Learn something new. Self improvement is a huge confidence booster. Make a cake from scratch, try a new exercise class like Piloga, enroll in that Italian language class you’ve always wanted to take. Learning something new gives you a feeling of progression.
- Join a team or club. Being a part of a team gives you the opportunity to benefit from the support and confidence of the group. Achieving something as a team can also help you feel individual self satisfaction.
- Keep before and after pics. A picture is worth a thousand words. When you look in the mirror you may not see how much your workouts have been doing for you, but when you look at a picture taken before you started working out you will be able to see more clearly where you were and how far you’ve come. Seeing progress gives you the confidence that you can continue on and get even better results. You can take before, after and progress pics of many things including art work, remodeling projects, workout progress, etc.
- Organize something for a cause. When you are leading something your confidence goes up as you work with your team and see the good that you are doing. It can be a small cause or a big cause. Doesn’t matter. As long as it is helping others. The closer you get to your goals, the higher your confidence will get.
- Keep good company. Having friends who are uplifting increases confidence because they focus on the good they see in you and in life and often remind you of it. This is also true in reverse. If you are around people who are negative you will be reminded more of the negative things. Even if they are just being negative about themselves, it will make you second guess yourself.
- Challenge yourself. Do something you want to do JUST because you want to do it. You don’t always need a reason for doing something. Push yourself beyond your comfort zone. If you want to write a song, who cares if it may never be published, write a song! When you do the things you dream of doing it empowers you. It gives you a feeling of freedom and of being in charge of your life.
Confidence can be yours!
This is the way successful people grow and you can do it too!
I challenge you to try any one of these 9 things today.
You will quickly see your confidence rise which has a domino effect on everything you do.
If you have any secrets about how you give yourself a confidence boost, please leave a comment below. We would all be very interested in hearing them. 🙂
Stay happy and confident friends,